I realized something recently that I'm sure you and a lot of other guys have encountered. When I talk to my guy friends about girls I'm dating or interested in, they tend to encourage and push me to action. When I talk to my female friends about girls I'm dating or interested in, they tend to say negative things about the girl and plant doubts in my head. What do you think about that? Even though there's no romantic interest between me and my female friends, are they acting competitive on some subconscious level?

-A student willing to learn-


My respond.


THE ANSWER IS YES.

If you think MEN are competitive, just wait until you start dating more WOMEN.

You will not believe how competitive women are.

A friend of mine pointed something out to me a few years ago.

He said "You know when you go out to a nice bar or club, and all the women are dressed up, have their hair done, and their makeup perfect? Well they're not fixed up like that for the men...it's for the other WOMEN."

Now, at first that made no sense to me.

But the more I've paid close attention, the more I realize that it's RIGHT ON.

Women are VERY competitive.

In fact, one of the best ways to meet women is to GO OUT with a cute female friend (or more than one).

Women are always more interested in a guy who already has women around him than a guy who doesn't.

This is one of the reasons why so many married guys talk about how much more often they're approached by women now that they're married...

People always want something that's already wanted by other people.

Female psychology is VERY interesting.

A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES...

I've noticed a KEY difference between the way
men and women act when they meet a "potential
mate".

Women usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:

"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."

Men usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:

"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In
fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential
girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night
stand."

In other words, women are usually casual and
laid-back when they're first meeting a guy...

But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a
POTENTIAL WIFE.

As you can imagine, this creates a lot of
tension and pressure.

And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind,
either.

I'm talking about the kind that makes men
shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is acting
uncomfortable.

I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.

THE ANSWER...

The simple solution to this is...

DON'T DO IT.

If you start acting all freakish and nervous
when you're talking to a woman, you're probably
going to screw things up before they've even had a
chance to get started.

Treating a woman that you've just met as if she
very well could be the love of your life is
something you should NEVER do.

Instead, take a very different approach.

My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has
SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or
SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.

The MAIN reason that I do this...

SURPRISE...

IS THAT IT'S TRUE!

Duh.

The fact is that MOST women are NOT compatible
"long term" with most men. In other words, if you
do get into a long-term relationship with a
particular woman, the chances are that she's going
to have things about her that you don't like.

One of my lines to
follow is, "You're screwing up your chances with
me".

Let's say I'm walking down the street with a
girl to have a cup of tea. Let's assume that she
and I just met the night before, I got her number,
and now we're going from her place to tea.

On the way in the door to the coffee shop, she
trips over the doorway.

I might look at her, shake my head in an
"overly dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say, "This
relationship just isn't going to work".

Then, let's say fifteen minutes later, she
spills her tea on the table and herself.

I'll shake my head again and say, "What did I
tell you about this kind of behavior?".

In other words, I'm communicating the very
OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife". I'm saying,
"I'm so comfortable around you that I can even
make fun of you without caring what you think of
me".

Does this sound a little crazy?

Good. It should.

But trust me.

If you spend a couple of hours having regular,
normal conversation... being Cocky & Funny,
enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and
generally demonstrating that you could care less
how things turn out, you'll be FAR more likely to
take things further than if you act as if she
might be the love of your life and you wind up
acting so nervous, stilted, and DUMB that she runs
away.


So here it is again... one thing that most guys
who are unsuccessful with women do that screws
things up... one thing to AVOID:

DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A
POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.

Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about
her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her
that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has
qualities that are going to annoy you, then point
them out (in a Cocky & Funny way, of course).

Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if
you do.

Another note:

Most guys don't "get" women.

And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks
and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN
how to meet women.

They don't realize that all the tricks in the
world aren't going to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's "going on".

Fascinating, you might find it to be.

Question. "The Guy in the bar Story... Well *the guy in the bar story* revolves around a guy who was in a bar and he approached this really really hot bartender, and he flirted with her and all, and he finally got her number, and then he left. Now when I mention this story to a selected few, they were enquiring about why he left the bar as soon as he got the waitress's phone number. Why should he have left the bar as soon as he got the waitress' phone number? This is "Ultra Extra Important" as you said. I think I know why he should have left, he was probably staring at her all night and she was turned off by it, but give me your complete insight on why he should have left immediately after getting her e-mail or phone number. Thanks. Answer. As I said before, this concept is VERY important. Understanding why you need to leave at this point is part of understanding the dynamic called ATTRACTION. So before I get into the specifics, let's talk about the underlying process that creates ATTRACTION... 1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional reaction. ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we mate with someone with the best possible genes. I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical" "scientific"and lame, but it's the damn truth. Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time,and it has a purpose that is very important. 2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it isn't created by things that "should" create it. Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their approval are examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create attraction... but don't. When you understand how attraction works, you begin to see that it has a "logic" all on its own. Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...and I think you should really understand it if you want to be successful with women. 3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to go out of their way to be overly "nice", it usually backfires. Women run from Wussy men (either that or they go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually pays). 4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of behavior when they encounter a woman that they're attracted to. When you combine this Default Wuss mode with nervous body language, you create an almost impossible barrier between you and ever creating ATTRACTION. 5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can ruin an interaction with a woman. You must know when to leave, hang up, or end the interaction. Leaving at the right moment creates tension, anticipation and mystery. YOU EITHER INCREASE OR DECREASE ATTRACTION -IT'S ALWAYS EITHER GOING UP OR DOWN... Of course, there are more ingredients to ATTRACTION, but these will set the stage for where I'm going with this... In every situation, you can do something to INCREASE the ATTRACTION... and you can do something to DECREASE it. In other words, there's always a way to dial up this magical emotion. And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even when you've just met. In fact, this is often the best time to do it. Let me ask you a question... What would most guys do in the situation with the waitress (or maybe a bartender)? Imagine it. You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute gal serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being Cocky and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's enjoying your company. You say "Hey, give me ur number!" (notice how I wasn't asking, I was in fact telling her to give me) and she writes it down for you... or maybe dials her number on yourphone, or maybe gives you a miss call or whatever. WHAT DO YOU DO? You could... a) Sit there and keep talking. b) Stay and talk to her a few more times. c) Wait around hoping that you can go homewith her. d) Leave. So let's do a little critical thinking about this situation before I comment (or maybe this will be the comment, we'll see). If you: (a) sit there and keep talking, what's likely to happen? In my experience, unless you're the ultimatePlayer of all time, the only place to go is DOWN. Think about it... you got her info. You did it. She's working. She's only going to get busy, which will probably make the conversation more difficult. And then there's the risk of saying or doing something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense, or just having the interaction go cold. All in all, you have very little chance of anything good happening, and a great chance of having something not-so-good happening. Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me. If you: (b) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends thatshow up), and talk to her a few more times whileordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen? Again, we're dealing with a situation that almost can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already gave you the info. Now she might start thinking "Oh, this is just another loser that hangs out all night and gets drunk with his buddies... like the other 47 guys who hit on me." Or you might say something dumb...do something dumb... or any of a lot of things. All downside risk, no upside rewards. If you: (c) wait around hoping that you can go home with her, I think you're REALLY taking your chances in the situation. Again, unless you're the ultimate player of all time, you're not likely to be taking home the bartender by sitting in front of her and drinking all night... for the same reasons listed above. But what if: (d) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting her info? What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an interaction like this one? Well, let me ask you: What effect does disappearing have IN GENERAL on people? It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes the other person think "I wonder where he/she had to go so fast?" You can also combine this with having something very INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might say: "Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up with some friends to have some SERIOUS fun." This technique of leaving the moment after you've gotten a woman's information has worked WONDERS for me... and for many guys I know. The long and the short of it is that if you stick around after you get the info, you create no tension, no mystery, and no curiosity. Leaving also exerts confidence. On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY,and have something interesting (even if you don't say what it is) to go do, then you're seen as busy... the kind of guy who has a life... someone who is in demand. Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates curiosity. Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging,and generally NOT having other things to do. It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you from other guys, and something that will demonstrate all the right qualities with a single move. Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or DECREASE the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I recommend that you start thinking of how to increase it as much as you possibly can, because if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then almost nothing else matters.

Questions and Answers. You might find it somewhat useful.

Question. You've stated numerous times how personality is more important than the other 2 biggies: looks and money. What is your take on shows like "Joe Millionaire" where the star is usually has money and / or good looks? I mean, it's not called "Joe Personality", and they didn't pick Quasimodo to be the star, so it seems to me they're discounting the personality aspect altogether. Just curious about your opinion.Thanks... Answer. This is a GREAT question. I'm sure that more than one guy has seen some handsome guy drive by in a Ferrari with a smoking hot babe next to him and thought, "Looks and money appear to be important factors when it comes to babes". It doesn't take 20 years of studying human behavior to figure out that looks and money attract women. But, what YOU'RE suggesting here, by the way you're phrasing your question, is that all other things being equal, LOOKS and MONEY are MORE important than personality... and that, in fact, if a man has those things, he can attract more women than a guy that doesn't have the benefit of good looks or money (but who has the most attractive personality). Did that make sense? That sounded like a math problem from high school. Whatever. My point is, that if you have good looks, and lots of money, you will definitely have an advantage. Money will allow you to hang out in places of prestige like clubs, Starbucks, Luna Bar, where a drink is forty bucks... and there are lots of babes there. Looks will allow you to create good 1st impressions, as well as it also helps in creating sexual tensions as well. But here's the KEY... A guy who is AMAZINGLY handsome and SUPER rich will still fail MOST of the time with the women he interacts with if his PERSONALITY isn't together. And especially if he's too much of a WUSSY. (wussy = a guy that behaves like a girl.) On the other hand, a guy who REALLY understands what makes women feel ATTRACTION, and knows how to interact with them in a way that grabs their attention and keeps it can succeed often, even if he's broke and ugly. You'll notice that the rich and handsome guys that are the chick magnets are the ones who ALSO understand women - and have Cocky, Funny, Dominant personalities as well. The reason why the show you're referring to gets so much attention has NOTHING TO DO with the logic you're using. The appeal of the show is the CONCEPT, combined with the scandal/fairytale elements (not to mention a bunch of hot women to look at). Think about it. I get far too many emails from: 1) Guys who are successful, rich and good-looking who are very unsuccessful with women, and... 2) Average-looking, average-income guys who have TONS of success with women... Money and looks help, but a man who understands women,communication, and ATTRACTION will be more successful than a rich, handsome guy who doesn't. Question. I gotta say this. You're seriously awesome. You've opened up my mind and made everything crystal clear for me. Ever since I've learned those stuff from you, I have had more success with women, hot women, then I ever thought possible and the funny part is that it just took me to be me and be the man that I am. Thanks buddy! Anyways...my question. I noticed something funny the past few times I was out with some hot women. I would make the meeting, we would get together and while we were together everything is going great then at some point, deep in my head I would get the thought that this girl isn't what I want and she is lucky I'm here with her. My behavior didn't change, just the thought of not proceeding with her, but instantly they've turned into wussie's. It was like they could read my mind and know they weren't up to par with me. Whats up with that. Can they read stuff like that? It was an instant flip...I mean instant. One more question. If a girl of interest keeps on begging you to open up about your life, I'm not talking about feelings, just about your life, is that a bad idea. Is that a wussie behavior? Thanks! Answer. OK, you're touching on something here that is VERY powerful. I could probably write 20 pages on this topic alone. Here's the deal... Women are MUCH better at reading body language than men. And, as you should know, we humans respond VERY powerfully to body language in general. The more you interact with women, and the more you use what you're learning from me, the more you'll find that women will FOLLOW YOUR LEAD. In other words, when you chase a woman, she'll run. When you play hard to get, she'll pursue you. If you do things to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then begin to lose interest and behave in a "less interested" way, women will become insecure and start acting like needy Wuss guys. Really. In fact, one of the things you'll find as you become more and more successful is that women will start becoming VERY attached to you VERY quickly. Next time you are at a coffee shop, walk up to the counter and greet the person at the register as if they're an old friend that you haven't seen for a few months. Say "Heyyyy... how have you been doing?" with a big smile. Watch as they respond to you THE SAME WAY. We humans respond to subtle body language so instantly and so powerfully that it sometimes scares me. Question. I just want to say thank you. Thanks to you, I am beginning to learn how to control myself and have more confidence towards women, but there has been a problem I've had for quite some time now. The problem is: when should I do things for a woman? Such as if she asks me to go to her car for something, or to go and buy her something out a vending machine we have in our office. Or even making copies of documents for her. I usually don't mind doing these things for women,but I sometimes feel like I'm just some pet to her and she doesn't really care who I am as long as I'm her "do Boy". I would like the help of a experienced master for help. Thanks. Answer. I actually think it's fine if you do things for women, buy them things, make copies for them...and fetch whatever her heart desires from the vending machine at work as long as you're not doing it to seek approval from her or whatsoever. But here's the thing, if you're not seeking her approval or whatsoever, why are you doing it then? As you can clearly see, you're missing one VERY important piece of the puzzle here. If you're gonna go and do all those things for a girl: I recommend that you IMMEDIATELY go out and buy yourself a fine collar, and a good leather leash to go with it. The next time a woman asks you to go to the car for something, just mention that you needed a "walk" anyway, and ask her if she'd mind holding your leash. Then take it out, put it on yourself, and hand her the "Master" end of it. Any other questions? Question. 1. I have been Cocky and Funny pretty well, and my dates respond as they should. The problem comes later. How should I end a date? What to say and do? 2. This is one that is throwing me off: At least five times recently, I ended a date that was very successful by all accounts. Being Cocky and Funny kept it lively and my date interested and attracted. The date ends with her saying she really wants to get together again soon, etc. The next day, I receive an e-mail or an sms saying something like, "On my way home, I thought about the date and I just want to take things slowly" or "I apologize for being so forward, I don't know what came over me. I don't want to lead you on, and I have decided I am not going to date anyone for a while." !!! Three women told me I was their last date for a while because they were so confused! What is going on, bro? Answer. Oh, you are running into a VERY interesting problem here. And the answer is probably not at all what you'd expect. My guess is that these women are feeling VERY attracted to you, but you're not taking things to a PHYSICAL level with them, so they're getting confused and excusing themselves. If you go out with a woman, and she feels ATTRACTED to you, but you don't do anything with that attraction, and instead say "OK, good night" , you will scare women away. You have to realise that being unpredictable means responding to a women in a way that she's not expecting you to; You on the other hand, I assume, wasn't being responsive at all. If you're going to be turning them on, you'd better take the next step. You gotta add more fuel to the flame. You feel me? That should solve your problem, bro.

Food for thought... its time to think =)

I'm talking about the skill of APPROACHING WOMEN.

When you have the ability to approach a woman and start a conversation with her, you IMMEDIATELY begin meeting more women every weekend that most men will meet in SIX MONTHS.

Knowing it helps you ----

1. Practically eliminates ALL chance of rejection
2. Lays the groundwork for natural conversation, killing any "awkward" moments
3. Gets her to not only have a conversation with you... but feel ATTRACTION for you with in the first minutes and even SECONDS of approaching her.

Now... what do we really need to know...?

How to approach a woman who is out with a mixed group of friends... or even another guy?

What you must do differently when approaching a woman who is with her girlfriends to avoid having them TURN AGAINST YOU?

What specific lines and techniques for approaching women in every situation you can imagine... from the mall to the beach to the elevator... along with proven word-for-word lines that work nearly ANYWHERE?

How to approach those ULTRA-HOT women in clubs and get them to totally open up to you... even if you are the tenth guy to hit on them that night?

What to do AFTER you approach and the conversation is flowing to ensure she sees you as LOVER instead of just a friend...




Of course...there are many more things you guys might want to ponder about...
But well...
This is a brilliant start...
And do not haress me for the answers =)
Please.

I think I'm letting too much out of the bag...But well.... =)

There are two basic stories for how men and women "start off" together, and two basic stories for how men and women "end up".

Through all of time, I'm sure that men and women have been playing out these stories... and I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it... and I do).


THE MEETING STORIES


Here's "Meeting Story #1":

Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him... so, instead he tries to"pursue" girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no"sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend".

Here's "Meeting Story #2":

Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him,boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful physical and emotional response for boy that she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl "get together".

As I'm sure you know...

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.

THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"

Let's assume that somehow, boy and girl actually "get together". Things usually go one of two ways after that...

Here's "End Up Story #1":

Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he"REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share "how he feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy and boy is left wondering what happened.

Here's "End Up Story #2":

Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around"sharing how he feels" and becomes boring. Boy keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as "The Man" in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.

And again, as I'm sure you know... In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it. In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of the situation.


If you look at your experience with women, I'm sure you'll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you've had. Now, of course there are slight twists andvariations, but the message is clear:

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN... AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.

If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It's very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic solution" by accident... ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN - VERY DIFFERENT.

The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to. But the key is:

1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.
2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don't ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and turn a good thing into a bad one... but insteadyou do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.

If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with women.

Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.

OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men. Different how?

What do I mean by that? ... Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS...not an "event". It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.

For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an"event", meaning that it's either there or it isn't. It really doesn't matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)

So, think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism"more like a volume knob than a light switch. It's like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.

Here's a little secret about women andATTRACTION:

If you'll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION, she'll love you for it... and you'll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.

Here are a few specific tips for you for the"Meeting Phase":

Number 1 :

Start with something STRONG, not WEAK.

When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he's nervous and weak.

Don't do it.

Do something STRONG.

Challenge her.

If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her.If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better.

When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE,she'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME IS ON.

If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.

Number 2:

Keep the TENSION UP.

One of my favorite concepts is "Never let the flame fade".
This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry"or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP.
Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she's interested, doesn't mean that it's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.

Turn UP the volume a little. It's working, so do more! Sexual Tension is SO important that I've actually devoted an entire "language" and way of thinking about it. If you want to learn how to create Sexual Tension, then use it to really amplify ATTRACTION and arousal, then take a minute and look at this.

Number 3:

Tease.
The word "tease" has a couple of meanings.
One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone. The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.
Do both.
If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her...and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.

If you want to know how she feels about you, say, "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says "NO I DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES "love" you.

Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it. And here are a few tips for the "End Up" phase:

1) Never become BORING.

Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Don't do either.
Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.
Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable.
We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.
But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd better figure out a way to STOP IT.
There's nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you're about to do or say.

2) Don't hand over control.

Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who are overly controlling.
What I am saying is that women don't like guys who are always saying things like, "I don't know, what do YOU want to do,baby?".
Women don't want men that they can control, so don't be one.

3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests.

When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.
This is natural, of course.
But there's a big danger here as well.
If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.
In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy... WITHOUT HER.
And I think it's VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect.
As soon as you start acting like she's going to be around forever, she'll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.

THE BIGGER PICTURE

Now, as you read these examples, can you see the bigger picture forming?
Can you see the deeper message?
The deeper message is that you need to understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION BUILDING FOREVER.
Now, where does this all begin?
It begins with YOU.
And it begins with you learning how to control yourself and your emotions. It begins with you understanding the history of how and why men and women become attracted to each other.

It begins with you learning the basics of how to use subtle body language and communication to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

Something that might be of interest to you (1)

Question:


You are a saint. A giant among insects... Ok,maybe not, but it gets through the obligatory ass-kissing since you have helped me so much.

Let me begin...I've had my eyes on this particular girl for quite some time, and I could tell she was already into me quite a bit, but we had never made anything of it. Last week, she decided to "be bold" and ask ME out, instead of the other way around (you can see I'm already doing something right). She asked if I wanted to go see a movie some time; instead of freaking out and jumping at the chance, I said I'm rather tired of this whole `movie date' thing. If she wanted to get me, she was going to have to be a little more creative. She was rather shocked and felt somewhat rejected. Later in the conversation,we were got to talking about this stalker (wussy who needs a life) that seems to be in love with her, and she hates him. He had asked her if she wanted to accompany him to a football game the next night that they both were already going to. She said she really wished that I would come with her so this guy would leave her alone.


I thought,"Ok. This will be my good deed for the year." and said I would go. She ends up driving me to the game. Upon arrival, she just HAD to braid herhair, and asked me to wait around while she did so. I stood there for a second, and then walked off. She started yelling at me to wait; I simply replied, "I'll see you inside the gate." waved and walked off. Once inside, I didn't see her come in,but soon felt someone grab my butt (it was her).We went on into the stadium, she soon saw someone she knew and went to talk to them, dragging me along. I stood around for a second, then wandered off, since I had seen someone I knew as well. She comes to find me soon, and we go off to our seats.

Her stalker had seen us as we were going to ourseats and decided to stay with us for part of the night. She began talking to him, and I did my own thing. I wandered off numerous times through out the night and generally acted very secure and like I didn't need a thing in the world (especiallyher!).

Following the game, as we walked back to her car I could tell that she wanted me badly due to some things she had been saying. She drove me back to where my car was waiting and we talked for twenty minutes or so in her car. There was some hand holding and such going on during the conversation. She said, "You know we're just going to end up making out-you're just delaying the inevitable." Bingo. I shrugged it off, and we continued talking. About ten minutes later, she said, "It's getting late; I really should be getting home." Obviously a ploy to get things started, as it was only 10:15 PM. I shrugged it off, again.

A few minutes pass, and she says,"It's late, I really need to go." I say,"Alright." I open the door and get out of the car.She says, "Where are you going?" I reply nonchalantly, "I just don't think you want it badly enough yet." Score #2. I walk off to my car;she immediately jumps out of the car and begins walking to my car as well.

I get to the car and put the key in the door and she sticks her leg infront of the door with this defiant attitude. I say, "You know, I've never been raped in an empty parking lot before..."You can imagine what went on from there.


Now, on to the questions: First, now that I've used my best line ever ("I just don't think you want it badly enough yet."), do you have any suggestions on what to do and say next time to create that same anticipation/desire in her? Also, you always say that I need to be the first to end the conversation, but many of the girls that I am interested in are somewhat sporadic and tend to call, when they don't have a lot of time. Quite often, they are the ones to end the conversation before I have a chance to. How do I take this? Should I just reply, "Alright. I'll catch you later." Acting like I could care less?


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Great story. I'm sure that anyone reading this would say"Yeah, but she already liked you"... I wish you would have told the story from the beginning, because I'll bet you MADE her like you with more of the same type communication that you described here. The one thing that you clearly understand here is how SEXUAL TENSION works. You understand how to take a small spark of desire from her and AMPLIFY it until it's literally EXPLOSIVE. If you keep amplifying and letting the tension build with a particular woman, this is the kind of result you'll get... and she will LOVE you for it.

Bravo! Things like making her come up with a more"interesting" date idea, walking away from her when other guys would have clung to her, shrugging off her comments about the two of you getting together, etc. are the magic ingredients. Most guys DESTROY all the sexual tension at every possible opportunity... they take every chance they can to SCREW THINGS UP because they don't know better... The fact is that most men just don't UNDERSTAND how women get turned on.

And most men don't understand that if you really want a woman to WANT you, then you NEED to get her turned on. It's not going to happen by itself.

Here's another interesting aspect of that thing called ATTRACTION:

The bigger the challenge you are, and the more intense the sexual tension, the more aroused a woman will become... so that when you finally do connect physically it's pure electricity.

Again, most men can't HANDLE sexual tension.They feel uncomfortable when the situation isn't"clear cut", and they screw things up.

One of the things you mentioned doing was"shrugging off" her obvious "come ons" to you. This kind of thing makes no sense to most guys. But it makes sense to me. And it made a LOT of sense to HER.

When a woman throws out a sexual comment, etc.most guys screw it up. That's because they don't know the SECRET about these types of comments.

When you're a major challenge, it naturally means that she's not IN CONTROL of the situation.

Attractive women are USED to being in control, so when they're NOT in control, they get agitated. It really bothers them.

So they TEST. They use all kinds of interesting tricks and tactics to see if you're just FAKING like you're actually in control of yourself and the situation.

One of the most obvious tests is throwing out a sexual comment. She might mention that she loves sex, or that she thinks you guys have a chance of "hooking up",or some other "tease".

But make no mistake about it, these comments are not at all the innocent remarks that they appear to be. She's watching VERY closely to see if you'll take the bait. It's a woman's last resort when she feels like she isn't controlling the situation to see if you'll crumble to SOMETHING.

-- If you saysomething like, "Really? You think we're going tohook up? That would be cool." Then she KNOWS SHE'S IN CONTROL.

If you say, "Yeah, you think so? I don't know, I'm not that easy..." then it just dials up the tension, mystery, and challenge.

OK, so you've asked me a couple of questions as well... What should you do NEXT time you see her to keep the tension building...? Well, if something works, KEEP DOING IT. If she enjoyed it the first time, do it again.

This time wait a little longer. Make her think about it a little bit more.

Women LOVE anticipation. They love to feel the rush that something is going to happen... but not know WHEN.

If you REALLY want to take things to the next level, take a page from popular movies and romance novels.

Don't just kiss her. Kiss her PASSIONATELY.

Pull her body into yours as you kiss her. Then push her away and say, "You're bad!"

Stop for awhile. Make her think about it. Then start again when she isn't expecting it.

These are the types of things that make women think about you all the time when you're gone...and call you in the middle of the night because they want to see you. Really.

Most men are so damn BORING when it comes to this stuff! They do NOTHING to make a woman FEEL the powerful feelings that she's always wanted to feel.

You be the one to do it, and you'll be the one she always wants around.

Your second question was about ending calls and conversations first.

The REASON why you should end all conversations and other interactions with women first is that it conveys a clear message:

"I'M A BUSY GUY. I HAVE A LIFE."

It turns YOU into the one that's desirable.

Most guys cling, and try to keep a woman on the phone for a long time. They desire a woman's attention and approval, and they make it clear that this is what they're after.

If you run into a woman who's always on the run, don't let it get to you. To put it differently, don't become obsessed with her just because she's never available!

The answer is to just take things to the nextlevel. Here's a GREAT little technique...

An amazing and simple way to handle this kind of thing is to just say "OK, bye" without any other comments.

She says "I have to go, my friends are waiting for me outside". Just say "OK, bye" and SHUT UP.

80% of the time, she'll say "No, wait! I'm just really busy, call me in a few days" etc.

You can't "kind of" do this. You have to be READY. She's TESTING you by playing hard to get.

It's a game. Have fun with it.

As soon as she says "I have to go, my laundry is in the dryer", you SHOOT back "OK, bye" in a VERY abrupt and casual tone and SHUT UP.

It will create a funny, uncomfortable silence for just a second. Most of the time, she'll say something in a tone of voice that says "That was weird", and then she'll give some kind of explanation or ask you why you were so short with her.

Of course, this is a great opportunity to bust her balls and create some fun banter.

Again, you'll often have her say something like"I'm really busy right now. I'm sorry. Call me tomorrow and let's do something". At this point, you can say "Yeah, if you're lucky. Bye!"

Not cold. Not mean. Just short and to the point. Then, when you call her next, it was HER that asked for the call. You get to call up and say "Well, last time we talked you were begging me to call you... and I felt so bad for you that I finally broke down."

What we're talking about here is DESIRE... and more importantly, INCREASING IT. In most interactions with women there is an opportunity to SPARK the chemistry... the sexual tension... the desire... and then there are many opportunities to AMPLIFY that desire.