A question and an answer.

Question:

I have a question. Although I hardly ever fail with women, when I'm first meeting a girl and teasing her and being cocky but funny, they respond well and seem to be interested in me.

However,when I ask for the number, lots (not necessarily most, but a good number) of girls initially say"Oh, I've lost my phone yesterday." Or, " You know what? Why don't you give me your number instead?" Or, " I don't have a cellphone actually, I'm sorry."

However, when I give a cocky response, or even if i just say "yeah right", they IMMEDIATELY concede and give me their number... and lo and behold, it works.

I'm just wondering why they make up those lies if they're going to give in INSTANTLY. I wouldn't think that this was too important if it happened once or twice, but there seems to be a trend or pattern here. What's going on?

Reply:

I'm really glad that you asked this particular question because it's hard for a lot of guys to believe that this kind of thing could be real (or at least so common).

My translation of what you just asked is: "Why do women play games when you ask for their number?"

In response to your question, I'm going to give you a two-pronged answer:

1) The psychology of what's going on here.
2) The technique: How I deal with this particular situation, and others like it.


Here's the story which has a psychology lesson to it.


There is this guy I know that had a particularly interesting technique for hiring people.

Here's what he did: After interviewing people for the position, he'd call back the one he liked BEST, and say:"I wanted to call and thank you for applying for this job, but I just don't think you're the right person for the position"... and then he'd listen.

If the person said, "OK, well thank you" he'd just hang up and call the next favorite one. On the other hand, if they said, "Wait a minute, I am the best person for the position, I'm sure of it" etc. he'd say, "Well, tell me more.Why do you think so?" I actually listened to him do this live on the speaker phone one day in his office with a woman that he had interviewed. Sure enough, when he said"Well, I just don't think you're the right person..." she answered with "Why not? I am thebest..." etc. And, sure enough, he hired her.

The point here is that in a hiring situation,there are usually many people applying. An interviewer needs to have ways of quickly filtering through and disqualifying theunacceptable candidates. And a SAVVY interviewer will have ways of quickly finding the EXCEPTIONAL candidates.

This was a great technique for doing just that.


THE TECHNIQUE

The conclusion of it is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN ARE APPROACHED ALL THE TIME. THEY NEED QUICK, EASY WAYS TO FIGURE OUT IF YOU'RE EITHER THE REAL DEAL OR A WUSS THAT GIVES UP AT THE FIRST SIGN OF RESISTANCE.

Hint: Polite men that say, "Oh OK, sorry for bothering you..." or "OK, here's my number, call me..." are not SEXY or ATTRACTIVE.

On the other hand, men that say (Some of my favorites): "Oh, it's OK... you don't have a phone? That's nothing to be embarrassed about" or "And you expect me to believe that?" in a cocky, funny way instantly telegraph the message: "I'm not a girly-man that gives up easily, and I see through your games. I don't buy it" are VERY ATTRACTIVE. It just says all the right things.

So, here are a few things to remember:

1) Attractive women are approached all the time by men, and are constantly being asked for their number.

2) If you were a woman who is getting asked for your phone number forty seven times a day, you'd probably make excuses yourself.

3) The excuses and "Why don't you give me yours" type responses weed out about 95% of the losers that have no spine and no persistence.

4) If you're READY for this in advance, and you KNOW what you're going to say and do when it happens, AND you don't answer with a lame, needy,wuss response, you increase your chances of getting the number DRAMATICALLY.

5) Confident, cocky, funny responses are a great way to power through these situations.

Let's face it:

Attractive women get a lot of attention. They're not looking for a guy that throws himself at her, and then gives up easily.They're looking for a guy that has all kinds of self confidence, and sees right through her games... to the point where he disarms her and walks away with the digits.

Think about it.