Saturday, June 16, 2007

Heaven and Hell

A holy man was having a conversation with the Lord one day and said, "Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like."

The Lord led the holy man to two doors. He opened one of the doors and the holy man looked in.

In the middle of the room was a large round table. In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew which smelled delicious and made the holy man's mouth water.

But the people sitting around the table were thin and sickly. They appeared to be famished. They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms and each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful, but because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths. The holy man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering. The Lord said, 'You have seen Hell.

'They then went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one. There was the large round table with the large pot of stew which made the holy man's mouth water. The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons, but here the people were well nourished and plump, laughing and talking.

The holy man said, "I don't understand."

"It is simple" said the Lord, "In this place the people have learned to feed one another."

Take this quiz... and a lesson you shall learn.

Don't bother getting a pen and paper... just read... if you can't answer them, just keep going.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Oscar winners for Best Actor and Actress.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer prize.
5. Name the last five Academy Award winners for Best Actor and Actress.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remembers the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They're the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners. Now here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. Name three people who made a difference in your life through Std 1 to Form5.
2. Name three friends who helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worth while.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson?

The people who make a difference in your life aren't the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They're the ones who care.

Have a good day =)

Embracing the mystery,

-Embracing The Mystery-

When all the words have been written, and all the phrases have been spoken, the great mystery of life will still remain. We may map the terrains of our lives, measure the farthest reaches of the universe, but no amount of searching will ever reveal for certain whether we are all children of chance or part of a great design.

And who among us would have it otherwise? Who would wish to take the mystery out of the experience of looking into a newborn infants eyes? Who would not feel in violation of something great if we had knowledge of what has departed when we stare into the face of one who has died? These are the events that made us human, that define the distance between the stars and us.

Still, this life is not easy. Much of its mystery is darkness. Tragedies occur, injustices exist. Bad things befall good people and sufferings are visited upon the innocent. To live we must take the lives of other species, to survive we must leave some of our brothers and sisters by the side of the road. We are prisoners of time, victims of biology, hostages of our own capacity to dream.

At times it all seems too much, impossible to accept.

We must stand against this. The world is a great mysterious place, and its possibilities are infinite, governed only by what our hearts can conceive. If we incline our hearts towards the darkness, we will see darkness. If we incline them toward the light, we will see the light.

Those of great heart have always known this. They have understood that, as honorable as it is to see the wrong and try to correct it, a life well lived must somehow celebrate the promise that life provides. The darkness at the limits of our knowledge; the darkness that sometimes seem to surround us is merely a way to make us reach beyond certainty, to make our lives a witness to hope, a testimony to possibility, an urge toward the best and the most honorable impulses that our hearts can conceive.
It is not hard. There is in each of us, no matter how humble, a capacity for love. Even if our lives have not taken the course we had envisioned, even if we are less than the shape of our dreams, we are part of the human family. Somewhere, in the most inconsequential corners of our lives, is the opportunity for love.

If I am blind, I can run my hand across the back of a shell and celebrate beauty. If I have no legs, I can sit in quiet wonder before the restless murmurs of the sea. If I am wounded in spirit, I can reach out my hand to those who are hurting. If I am lonely, I can go among those who are desperate for love. There is no tragedy or injustice so great, no life so small and inconsequential, that we cannot bear witness to the light in the quiet acts and hidden moments of our days.

And who can say which of these acts and moments will make a difference? The universe is vast and is a magical membrane of meaning, stretching across time and space, and it is not given to us to know her secrets and her ways. Perhaps we were placed here to meet the challenge of a single moment; perhaps the touch we give will cause the touch that will change the world.

Strength and Courage

It takes strength to be firm
It takes courage to be gentle

It takes strength to conquer
It takes courage to surrender

It takes strength to be certain
It takes courage to have doubt

It takes strength to fit in
It takes courage to stand out

It takes strength to feel a friend's pain
It takes courage to feel your own pain

It takes strength to endure abuse
It takes courage to stop it

It takes strength to stand alone
It takes courage to lean on another

It takes strength to love
It takes courage to be loved

It takes strength to survive
It takes courage to live

Because I love you

A ray of light shining
The desire in my heart burning
My soul begans yearning
Why won't you satisfy my craving

It was your love all along
That kept me warm and strong
Those were the best days
When you were only a heartbeat away

I want to be your light
I want to be your guide
You were a sensation
You were the inspiration

At first it was nothing
But I thought it was something
Till the memories of you began singing
And I knew you were my everything

You were the one I've always wanted
I knew there were times I took you for granted
I'm sorry that I don't know much
I guess I fell out of touch

As time begans slipping through your fingers
And the morning sun breaks between us
When the ice melts into snow
I guess it's almost time to go

I've crawled in the dark
I've fought against luck
There is no other clue
It's because I love you

Friday, June 15, 2007

Michael Buble- Home

Another summer day
Is come and gone away
In Paris and Rome
But I wanna go home
Mmmmmmmm
Maybe surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel all alone
I just wanna go home
Oh I miss you, you know

And I’ve been keeping all the letters that I wrote to you
Each one a line or two
“I’m fine baby, how are you?”
Well I would send them but I know that it’s just not enough
My words were cold and flat
And you deserve more than that

Another aeroplane
Another sunny place
I’m lucky I know
But I wanna go home
Mmmm, I’ve got to go home

Let me go home
I’m just too far from where you are
I wanna come home

And I feel just like I’m living someone else’s life
It’s like I just stepped outside
When everything was going right
And I know just why you could not
Come along with me
But this was not your dream
But you always believe in me

Another winter day has come
And gone away
And even Paris and Rome
And I wanna go home
Let me go home

And I’m surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel alone
Oh, let go home
Oh, I miss you, you know

Let me go home
I’ve had my run
Baby, I’m done
I gotta go home
Let me go home
It will all right
I’ll be home tonight
I’m coming back home

Three Days Grace- Pain

Three Days Grace- Pain

Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all

You're sick of feeling down
You're not the only one
I'll take you by the hand
And I'll show you a world that you can understand

This life is filled with hurt
When happiness doesn't work
Trust me and take my hand
When the lights go out you'll understand

(Chorus)
Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at al
Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all

Anger and agony
Are better than misery
Trust me I've got a plan
When the lights go off you will understand

(Chorus)

I know (I know I know I know I know)
That you're wounded
You know (You know you know you know you know)
That I'm here to save you
You know (You know you know you know you know)
I'm always here for you
I know (I know I know I know I know)
That you'll thank me later

Pain, without love
Pain, can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all
Rather feel pain than nothing at all
Rather feel pain...!!!!!!!!!!

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Quoting...and how it can help you to deal with shy girls.

This will be a post regarding quoting and how it'll help you with shy, timid, and insecure girls.

Quoting has you say things through someone's else mouth. This has the advantage of making the more timid or insecure girls feel more at ease with the content you are about to deliver and thus much more receptive to your suggestive talk, as you are not talking about her neither yourself but a "friend" of yours (this is also a good tactic to use when delivering a harsher than usual content. In order to understand what you are saying, she will have to apply everything you say to herself anyway, so don't worry about her not experiencing what your "friend" experienced:)

On the other hand, using quotes might be a slight hindrance to your success with more open-minded and adventurous girls, who wouldn't mind you describing them your or their feelings, because should a direct speech be accepted, it is always much more powerful than speaking through quotes. With such a girl describe her feelings and she goes "Goosh, this guy really understands my feelings!", or describe your feelings and she goes "Goosh, this guy has such deep feelings!". She'll be wet either way:)

You can also quote an article, a teacher, a TV-show, a book etc. All these quotes added up is called stacking realities - the way she will perceive it is that if the book says so, the article says so, the lecturer says so, his friend says so etc., then it must be true.

The reasoning behind quoting is to give the more shy and emotionally fearful girls more distance to feel more at ease with any given subject - to not have either her or you overtly involved in your descriptions (don't worry, her and you will be involved in those descriptions in her mind:). Another way of making her more at ease with any given subject is to use the hypothetical "If you were to...", "If I were to..." constructions, which now have the two of you overtly involved in whatever you choose to talk about, but only in a hypothetical way.

For example, use a "If I were to ask you…" in front of a "…what's the most important thing for you in a relationship…", the implication being that you're not really asking, finish that with a "…how would you describe it?" and you end up with a much more effective question of "If I were to ask you what's the most important thing for you in a relationship, how would you describe in?" than a blatant "what's the most important thing for you in a relationship?" on its own could ever be.

Still loving you

Inspirations just keep pouring in...

-Still Loving You-


The very first time our eyes met
Till now it's the same feeling I get
But it feels so much stronger
You know I wanna love you longer

I can't explain certain things I do
I just wanna make you feel brand new
I hope you know that its true
I just can't stop loving you

I've been lonely since the day
The very day that you went away
It's just so sad but true
You know for me there's only you

Why would you want to be on your own
Why would you want to be alone
If you love me please don't refrain
Don't let me walk under the cold shivering rain

I know it's hard to open your heart
When even people you love seem out to harm you
But if you could heal my broken heart
Would'nt love be out to charm you

Was it just a whisper
Was it just a sigh
How much could I suffer
How long is this goodbye

What's the point of me trying
What's the point of me crying
Is it just a figment of my imagination
Or was our love purely base on fiction

I guess it has become a trend
For every love to come to an end
I said i'll love you till I die
I just hope you'll know that's not a lie

Anchoring--- another *She* post.

Today.... the word will be anchoring.

Anchoring is an application of Pavlov's reflex in Neuro Linguistic Programme(a programme which derives the use of liguistics for the purpose of persuasion). A Pavlov's reflex is a conditioned reflex first explored and introduced by Russian scientist Pavlov.

The core of his experiment was as follows - he rang a bell, gave a dog some food, the dog saw and smelled the food and started salivating. After a few times of repeating the process of ringing a bell, offering food and getting the dog to salivate, he eliminated the offering of food from the process. He just rang the bell and… the dog started salivating. By always ringing a bell while offering food, he had created a conditioned reflex in the test subject, which in this case was causing salivation by simply ringing the bell.

The same conditioned reflex can be created in a girl - this is called anchoring. In patterning(patterning means methods or ways of interacting) this means, that every time you see the girl light up with delight, smile, laugh or just feel damn good because of the wonderful feelings you are creating in her with your patterns, you touch her in a specific place (the shoulder, elbow, inside of her arm) thus planting an anchor (the ringing of the bell while offering food:), while saying something "it's a great feeling, isn't it?" to mask your touch.
Let's say you've touched her elbow each time you've made her feel especially good three times already. If you now touch that very same spot on her elbow the same way you touched it on three previous occasions (applying the same amount of pressure etc.), she suddenly and unexpectedly has all those wonderful feelings, that were there when you planted the anchor, rush back to her without you having done anything else but touch her elbow (in other words: you just rang the bell without offering food, and she started to salivate:). If you're really good, you can plant different anchors for different feelings all over her body - an anchor of laughter on her shoulder, an anchor of excitement on her elbow, an anchor of feeling romantic on back of her hand and an anchor of feeling horny… on her knee:).

Furthermore, anchoring is not confined to touching alone - you can also use the tone of your voice, some specific words (whisper "oh yes do it!" in her ear a few times when she orgasms, then whisper those same words in her ear when being on some fancy reception and watch her turn red from a wave of passionate heat and lust. You don't even have to hide anything, she can recognise those words as "familiar" but she still can't help herself:). (I did this quite a number of times and a few times, the girl actually *wet herself*)

It is however important not to overuse the anchors you have planted or she will eventually become insensitive to them. Ring a bell ten times without offering food and the dog will eventually stop salivating when hearing the bell ring.

The most practical use of anchoring is probably being able the keep a girl on a constant high when she's with you. Evoke positive feelings, and whilst she's experiencing them, anchor those feelings. But even people who are extremely skilled in patterning cannot keep evoking good feelings in a girl on a continuous basis, sooner or later, for whatever reason (she might be tired, have some worries, whatever), her mood will drop. That's where the feelings you have anchored come handy. Fire off an anchor (if you anchored laughter and fun to her shoulder, touch her shoulder) and she's happy again:) With no excess effort on your part:)

Heh...posting these types of post only gives the statement womaniser and sexual predator a firmer hold on me. Doesn't matter, not that it matters at all to me.

To be frank... I used to be rather wild during my younger days... but the effect of maturity took place. But knowledge and experience does not wither with age or maturity. And this is where I pour my knowledge and experience.

Judge me or learn from me. Its entirely your choice. Do something that actually benefits.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Find her need... Fulfill that very need.

Everyone has a need. Find and fill that need.

This will be a subpost continuing from the "How to make women fall truely, madly, deeply in love with you" post. I hope my opinions, ideas and perceptions might serve as a help to many out there.



There are 4 simple rules to finding her need and filling her need.

Rule 1.

People, all people, to include supercelebrities and ultra-gorgeous women, have desires. That seems like stating the obvious, but think about it. Even Bill Gates I bet, wishes he could do something different, that would fulfill him and he's not getting it now. He aches for something... craves for something... That's the same with ultra-gorgeous women, or women in general. They may have an army of suitors, they may be sleeping on the finest velvet sheets, etc etc. But believe me, all people, gorgeous women included, ache for something. They have a heartfelt desire for something. That "something" may vary from adventure to feeling freedom, to feeling respected (for the less secure ones), to feeling pampered, to feeling like a little girl again. It can be a large variety of things. But make no mistake about it. Everyone "aches" for something.

Rule 2.

And this is a cliche'. Find out what it is. Be sensitive. You can pick this up in the small cues that she leaks out. Be intelligent in structuring your questions to be such that you can uncover nice pieces of data. What you're looking for is "something" that she always wanted that she's not getting right now, something she "aches" for, but can't have due to some life circumstance or something like that. It can be anything. Once you know what it is, you can either you "fill" the void by using language patterns or "transform" yourself into the person that fits that criteria/desire/longing.

Rule 3.

Fill that "void" that you've found. Use linguistic patterns to achieve this. If she talks about the need for respect, say something like "what if... we were living in a different dimension... or a different planet... and in that planet... everything you see, is everything you want to see... and in that place... you see all the people, giving you all the respect you ever wanted... now doesn't that feel nice?"

Rule 4.

This is a cliche as well, but connect the fulfillment of the need to you. Yes, you. Do not make it obvious though.


Example:

One girl I was *not* really going after leaked out that she misses her father (who died a long time ago). I then took that tack and talked about how good it feels to be a little girl sitting on daddy's lap and embracing him, and asking for the small "gifts" like a pony or things like that.
And gosh...it actually worked.

But it would have even been better to ask her what her father was like, to ask for small cues, like how her father talked, what he used to say to her, what did he make her feel and etc etc.(I did'nt even actually do all that which I wish I would have done but nevertheless I still got what I wanted but it would have been better if I had done that) Then, using that information and your power of acting, subtly "transform" yourself into her daddy. It might seem sneaky and underhanded to use her own desires to dangle that very need she's always wanted but lets frame it this way - we're just finding out what can make a person happy and giving it to them."

How to make a women fall truely, madly, deeply in love with you.

This will be a post into unlocking the door to the hearts of women. I hope that my knowledge would be sufficient for those of you out there who would be interested in learning the art of making a women fall truely, madly, deeply in love with you. Posting this post would probably be a very stupid thing to do, as women who happen to read this post would already see what's coming if ever, I would choose to pursue that very person. However, that reason alone is not enough to deter me from posting this post.

Enjoy.






Learn how to give her food for thought. Get her thinking by what you say, by what you do. Get her thinking about you. It is very important that you do this. Influencing her in ways where it is not obvious you are influencing her. Influence her thoughts, her attitude, her perception towards you and many other things and issues in life. Brain washing and persuading her is sometimes very important but is equally as hard as it is important to do. Brain washing and influencing her thoughts on you of being her ideal or perfect guy is probably the perfect thing to do. Brain washing and influencing her on being with you even though you are not the ideal or perfect guy for her would be an even more perfect thing to do. Food for thought, brain washing, influencing, and persuasion. Remember those.

Doing something for her to notice without making it obvious that the action of her noticing it was what you were trying to do. this works very well into showing her the other good side of you that she would love but is yet to notice. Make the situation of her discovering your good side as a pure coincidental and accidental occurrence.

Learn how to praise yourself and make it seem like its suppose to be a joke. Try to put down and talk bad about yourself to show that you are a humble person. Learn how to balance confidence and humility altogether. This is again very important. A girl loves a guy who in someway is full of confidence. However too much confidence might make you seem arrogant, egoistic, and just simply too full of yourself. We don't want that. Humble yourself and exude humility at the right moments.

Be sensitive and emotional. However, try not to show these qualities out at the early stage of your getting to know her. Slowly and gradually show her these qualities once she's gotten to know you a little bit more. Every girl loves a guy who is a man most of the time and a women at the right moments. By the way, sensitive and emotional guys tend to make women think of them as romantic and thoughtful, two qualities which most women find to be very attractive in a man.

Talk about things which would make her compare you with others and see that you are better.
For girls who have pride,make her feel humble in your presence.
For girls who have insecurity issues, boost up their confidence and make them feel secure.
Show her how you and her have something in common or a certain likeness in any possible way.
Most girls usually have a certain personality trait that they look up for in a guy. If you don't already have that personality trait. Its time to develop that trait. Or to the very least let her think you have it.

Be unique and different in a good way. That's the keyword

Make her feel loved. Make her feel adored. Make her feel needed and wanted. But be careful not to give it too much. She might step over your head or take you for granted. Know when to give, know when to hold back. This is very very important.

Make the girl feel special, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could.

Show appreciations, learn how to compliment and praise sincerely, learn how to appreciate certain things about her and let her know you appreciate those things about her. Help her see herself in a different light.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go "oh my god, he's just simply so sweet".

Get her thinking about you. Very important thing this is. Sometimes this might just be the only thing you need to do to get a girl to like you. Which is the first step into making the girl love you.

You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost finish an exercise book. At sometime, I noticed that some guys nearby our table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?

Always do sweet things which are least expected. For example... do lame, silly and corny things like suddenly buying her flowers out of the blue when you don't usually buy her flowers. Make a very unexpected appearance at her home just to give her a hug and tell her how much you love her then go back home. Call her suddenly at 5am in the morning just to tell her that you had a dream about her, then tell her how much you love her and miss her and then end the conversation. Slip a love poem in a letter and put it somewhere where she would discover it and know that it was from you, like in her exercise book, her bag, her folder which she puts her notes in...stuff like that. Cook something for her(would be great if it was nice).

Don't kiss her when she expects you too. Do not rush sex. Do not give in into temptations that she might give you which leads to sex. If you need to, make her rape you. You will know when the time is right to give in. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writings are on your forehead that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart.

Demonstrate to her something about you that she discovers to be of value for her. And she will discover it being of value for her for the simple reason of loving the way that value makes her feel.

So many guys think, that their mere presence and company is of some specific value to the girl - well it is not. If you sport a handsome face or a hot bod, then your presence can sometimes be a turn-on for a girl - she likes the way the look of your face and muscles make her feel and thus your presence can be of separate value for her. But even the few times that happens, it will wear off fast if it turns out that that is all you have to offer.One very important thing to remember, nobody will want your goods if they don't even know anything about it. So let them sample it by demonstrating value and personality. Five very simple traits(there are of course more then five) are as the following according to my opinion.

confidence
humour
smile
well groomed / good looks
ability to create an emotional connection / a feeling of romance

These are the things you could do in order to generate a connection.

mirror her actions physically and doing it in a not so obvious way
notice the things she says without realising or subconsciously, remember and use them
rephrase everything she says and feed it back to her
inspire, generate and connect all good feelings
don't argue with her, be very understanding, deeply understanding - this can help create an immense connection
have and keep good eye contact - also helps to create an immense connection
touch her in a friendly, gentle, flirting manner. Keep those touches friendly and in a non sexual and non harmful manner.



We also need to know how to draw values out.The point of drawing forth values is to find out what she wants in and from a man and then turn into that man of her dreams by providing her with it. But don't be fooled, if she says she wants her man to be tall and financially secure, you're not going to the doctor to get implants for your legs or rob a bank. What she gave you were means values, which means that tall in itself does nothing for her - what matters to her is how a tall man by her side makes her feel. And this is the key - for each means value you need to find out the ends value, which is what she really wants.

Let's take the example of a tall man. Asking her "and how does a tall man make you feel?" might reveal that it makes her feel secure and protected! Aha! That's what she really wants! She wants to feel protected and secure, not a "tall man" literally although that was rather how she perceive it to be.The important part is not what she says she wants (tall men, rich men, etc.). The important part is the feeling that she experiences when she is around (tall men, rich men, etc). As long as you can discover the feelings that are important to her, and create them in her mind, she will associate those feelings with YOU." In practice, she'll reject a tall man that doesn't make her feel protected and secure right away, whereas you, who you might not be tall at all but can make her feel secure and protected, have just elicited your way to her heart :)

I shall be more detailed about her needs and how to fulfill her needs in next post.
Till then, have fun.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Say Goodbye

Another poem by me. I have quite alot of inspiration lately I guess...


Say Goodbye :/





Having you near me
Holding you near me
Are you just gonna let it be
An illusion for me to see

The beating of my heart is a drum that's lost
You are the rhythm its been looking for the most
Though each and every part of me has tried
Only you can fill that space inside

I've never asked you why
You've always been in a disguise
I've been afraid to set you free
Losing you is painful to me

You can see the pain living in my eyes
My heart is yearning for you to symphathize
If you only knew how much I tried
If you only knew how hard I've cried

I've done everything i can to ease the pain
But only you can stop the rain
So there's no sense pretending
My heart it's not mending

Just when i thought i was over you
Just when i thought i could stand without you
These memories just come crashing through
I just cant go on without you

I would rather hurt myself then to ever make you cry
I love you without needing a reason why
Is there really nothing left to try
Is there no other way but to say goodbye

It's You.

Could I compose a poem?
And not just any poem, a good one.
We shall just see about that.


It's You.


Don't speak too much of what's been going on
The past is over and gone
Give me your troubled mind
All I need is just a sign

Though each and every part of me has tried
Only you can fill that space inside
You know I just can't live without you
You know I miss everything about you

Giving you all of my heart
Wondering what you would say
I always put you as the start
Its not a role I usually play

Whether I'm blinded by love is still a mystery
It doesn't matter to me whats in your history
Girl thats the way love goes
The feeling I get when you're close

Tonight we'll embrace until it's time to go
My love for you many do not know
I just hope you know its true
That its all because of you



Im actually quite proud of this work....
=)

Monday, June 11, 2007

Reminiscence of the past.

This is just a post that I'm posting at approximately 4.54am in the morning. I'm bored and sleepy yet I cant sleep because I have something to do at 7.00am in the morning and I know for sure, that if I were to attempt to sleep now, there is simply no chance in hell I would be able to wake up at 7 in the morning.

During the days when I was younger I used to fantasize that God would suddenly descend upon me and grant me 5 wishes.
And these are my 5 wishes.

1. The ability to literally read minds. Just by looking at that person directly, I would be able to access his mind; go through his past, his blurred past, his darkest secrets, his disappointments, his regrets, his wishes, his present thinking at that very moment etc...etc...

2. The ability to guess things with 100% accuracy in the present moment. Nothing to do with future readings only present. For instance, being able to predict the number I'll roll when I throw a dice and such. Being able to see the cards a dealer is dealing when the dealer and everyone else does'nt know what card is that. Psychic, probably would be the precise term.

3. Be perfect looking in terms of physical attraction. Perfect body, and a truly perfect symmetrical face.

4. Flawless mind. Photographic memory. Confusion free mind. And able to answer mathematical questions in the blink of a second. 34567932 x 3455676 -34556+34556. Able to solve that in 1 sec sort of thing. Boundless creativity and imagination. Flawless sense of logic.

5. Immunity to every single sickness. My cells recover from cuts or bruises relatively very very fast.

Why these 5 wishes? Why not money...fame....success....live forever...get the perfect girl...?

Its actually pretty easy to figure that out.

My 5 wishes already gave me all those.

Live forever? Whats the point of living forever anyways?

Fame? Why fame...I don't particularly favor fame very much...I don't really fancy the idea of everyone idolizing me. The people I would want idolising me are actually very few. Its okay with me if I only have them in the world to idolize me.

Money, success? Money will come, no doubt about that. Mind reading, psychic and having a flawless mind is more then enough to assure me of success.

Imagine having the ability to read minds literally. Imagine having the ability to control chance and luck with psychic powers. There is no more need to guess what is going through a persons mind any longer. Casino's will be my favourite hang out place. Gambling will be my favourite game, as there will never be an issue of bad luck anymore. In terms of business aspects, I'll be able to minimize risks to the very minimum. Heh, there probably won't even be any risk. Dealing with troublesome and fussy clients? No longer an issue. Falling sick? No longer an issue as well. Dealing with jealous and envious people? Totally not an issue. Making people feel good and understanding people's needs will be the simplest of all task.

Why would I wanna be perfect looking? Simple. There are many people out there who are better looking then me with a much hotter body. I would like to be the very best. The feeling of being a 10 out of 10 intrigues me.

One very terrible downside though. Would'nt surprise me if I'll commit suicide in about 1 year later. Life won't have its thrill and meaning any longer. Life would be downright and totally boring. Imagine knowing things that I would rather not know. Some things are better left unknown and unsaid. There won't be a case like that for me anymore.

Have a nice day. I would have to say that this is officially my worst post to date. I was bored however and simply too sleepy to come up with anything better then this. For that, I apologize.

Another post on the consideration of the existence of a Divine being called God.

Does God Exist - The Big Questions

Does God exist?

An answer to this fundamental question is a prerequisite for answering the other big questions of life: Where did we come from? Why are we here? Do we serve a purpose? Do we have any intrinsic value? What happens after we die? The question of the existence of God is fundamental.

Does God Exist - A Philosophical Issue

Before we ask the question "Does God exist?" we first have to deal with our philosophical predispositions. If, for example, I am already dedicated to the philosophical idea that nothing can exist outside of the natural realm (i.e. there can be no supernatural God), no amount of evidence could convince me otherwise. Asking the question "does God exist?" would be pointless. My answer would be "No, He doesn't," regardless of whether God truly exists or not. The question would be impossible to answer from an evidentiary standpoint simply because anything which God might have done (that is, any supernatural act which might serve as evidence for His existence) would have to be explained away in terms of natural causes, not because we know what those natural causes could possibly be, but simply because a supernatural God is not allowed to exist!

Dr. Richard Lewontin, the Alexander Agassiz Professor of Zoology at Harvard University, put it like this: "It is not that the methods and institutions of science somehow compel us to accept a material explanation of the phenomenal world, but, on the contrary, that we are forced by our a priori adherence to material causes to create an apparatus of investigation and a set of concepts that produce material explanations, no matter how counterintuitive, no matter how mystifying to the uninitiated. Moreover, that materialism is absolute, for we cannot allow a Divine Foot in the door"

If, on the other hand, I were neutral, and didn't already have an "a priori adherence" to a particular worldview (be it naturalistic or otherwise), the question "does God really exist?" wouldn't be pointless at all. Rather, it would be the first step in an objective and meaningful search for ultimate truth. Our willingness to ask the question with an open mind is fundamental to our ability to discover the truth behind the answer. So first of all, before you even ask the question, decide whether or not you're really willing to accept the answer.

Does God Exist - Things to Consider

Once you're ready to ask the question, "does God exist?" here are a few observations to consider as you begin your search for an objective answer:

1.
Discoveries in astronomy have shown beyond a reasonable doubt that the universe did, in fact, have a beginning. There was a single moment of creation.

2.
Advances in molecular biology have revealed vast amounts of information encoded in each and every living cell, and molecular biologists have discovered thousands upon thousands of exquisitely designed machines at the molecular level. Information requires intelligence and design requires a designer. (the designer in this case could be a divine designer or simply mere random occurance)

3.
Biochemists and mathematicians have calculated the odds against life arising from non-life naturally via unintelligent processes. The odds are astronomical. In fact, scientists aren't even sure if life could have evolved naturally via unintelligent processes. If life did not arise by chance, how did it arise?

4.
The universe is ordered by natural laws. Where did these laws come from and what purpose do they serve?

5.
Some philosophers agree that a transcendent Law Giver is the only plausible explanation for an objective moral standard. So, ask yourself if you believe in right and wrong and then ask yourself why. Who gave you your conscience? Why does it exist?

6.
People of every race, creed, color, and culture, both men and women, young and old, wise and foolish, from the educated to the ignorant, claim to have personally experienced something of the supernatural. So what are we supposed to do with these prodigious accounts of divine healing, prophetic revelation, answered prayer, and other miraculous phenomena? Ignorance and imagination may have played a part to be sure, but is there something more?

Conclusion.

If your curiosity has been piqued and you desire to look into this matter further, I personally recommend that you consider the world's assortment of so-called Holy Books. If God does exist, has He revealed Himself? And if He has revealed Himself, surely He exists...

Laws of Thermodynamics

Laws of Thermodynamics

The field of thermodynamics studies the behavior of energy flow in natural systems. From this study, a number of physical laws have been established. The laws of thermodynamics describe some of the fundamental truths of thermodynamics observed in our Universe. Understanding these laws is important to students of Physical Geography because many of the processes studied involve the flow of energy.

First Law of Thermodynamics:

The first law of thermodynamics is often called the Law of Conservation of Energy. This law suggests that energy can be transferred from one system to another in many forms. Also, it can not be created or destroyed. Thus, the total amount of energy available in the Universe is constant. Einstein's famous equation (written below) describes the relationship between energy and matter:

E = mc2

In the equation above, energy (E) is equal to matter (m) times the square of a constant (c). Einstein suggested that energy and matter are interchangeable. His equation also suggests that the quantity of energy and matter in the Universe is fixed.

Second Law of Thermodynamics

Heat cannot be transfer from a colder to a hotter body. As a result of this fact of thermodynamics, natural processes that involve energy transfer must have one direction, and all natural processes are irreversible. This law also predicts that the entropy of an isolated system always increases with time. Entropy is the measure of the disorder or randomness of energy and matter in a system. Because of the second law of thermodynamics both energy and matter in the Universe are becoming less useful as time goes on. Perfect order in the Universe occurred the instance after the Big Bang when energy and matter and all of the forces of the Universe were unified.

Third Law of Thermodynamics

The third law of thermodynamics states that if all the thermal motion of molecules (kinetic energy) could be removed, a state called absolute zero would occur. Absolute zero results in a temperature of 0 Kelvins or -273.15° Celsius.
Absolute Zero = 0 Kelvins = -273.15° Celsius
The Universe will attain absolute zero when all energy and matter is randomly distributed across space. The current temperature of empty space in the Universe is about 2.7 Kelvins.

Why are the three Laws of Thermodynamics so important?

Our concept of "Modern Science" is based on a series of major discoveries that define our understanding of the universe. Advancements in mathematics, biology, physics, chemistry, and other disciplines have usually been accompanied by defining, or discovering, fundamental principles. The Laws of Thermodynamics are important because they control interactions of everything in the universe - regardless of scale. These rules stretch across every form of science known to humankind.

Classical physics is, from a certain perspective, entirely based on Newton's Laws of motion. Most of the equations and principles taught in physics are based on these simply stated rules. In a similar way, thermodynamics is defined and based on the fundamental principles known as the Laws of Thermodynamics. All of the equations and guidelines used to design engines, analyze machines, and understand natural phenomena are subject to these laws.

The Laws of Thermodynamics take on a special importance because of their scope. It has been shown that Newton's laws of physics are only applicable in certain conditions. These conditions include pretty much every situation important to most engineers, chemists, and scientists. However, there are some known conditions where "Newtonian" physics are inaccurate. The Laws of Thermodynamics have no such exceptions. Energy is conserved, regardless of the amount or type of energy. Closed systems always tend towards greater entropy unless externally modified, whether those systems are atomic or galactic in size.

This means that the three Laws of Thermodynamics have influence over every scientific discipline, every biological or geological process, and every interstellar system. We can immediately test certain ideas against the Laws of Thermodynamics to see if they follow some of the universe's most basic rules. Ideas that don't follow those rules are either wrong or must be caused by some supernatural influence. For example, perpetual motion machines are provably impossible according to the Laws of Thermodynamics. The first law shows that energy (or matter) cannot be created from nothing, and the second law shows that a closed system will degrade its own energy over time. A machine that runs forever without any external energy source is either fictional or powered by some unnatural source.

Implications of the Laws of Thermodynamics, much more than other concepts, have sparked fierce debate about the very origins of the universe. The Laws of Thermodynamics leave some popular scientific theories in serious doubt. The fact that matter can neither be created or destroyed, according to the First Law of Thermodynamics, raises questions about where all of the matter in the universe came from.

Interestingly, there are those who shrug off disagreements between the Laws of Thermodynamics and certain popular scientific theories. While the fundamental laws of matter and energy, the Laws of Thermodynamics, are used to measure truth in every other discipline, some scientists ignore these laws as they pertain to their theories. Since the Laws of Thermodynamics define the rules of the natural universe, how do we explain things that those Laws say are not possible? If matter cannot be created, where did it come from? It is certainly here, and nothing natural can create it.

This makes a supernatural source more than just a possible conclusion - it makes it the only conclusion that fits the Laws of Thermodynamics. If something exists when natural laws say that it cannot be created, then something or someone operating outside of those laws must be responsible. The Laws of Thermodynamics lead us not only to greater knowledge of the natural universe, but they point us toward answers outside of that universe as well.

Physic Facts that you should know but apparently you don"t.

What is light?

Light is a phenomenon that has particle and wave characteristics. Its carrier particles are called photons, which are not really particles, but massless discrete units of energy.

What is the speed of light?

The speed of light is 299,792,458 m/s in a vacuum. The symbol used in Relativity for the speed of light is "c", which probably stands for the Latin word "celeritas", meaning swift.

Is the speed of light really constant?

The speed of light is constant by definition in the sense that it is independent of the reference frame of the observer. Light travels slightly slower in a transparent medium, such as water, glass, and even air.

Can anything travel faster than light?

No. In Relativity, c puts an absolute limit to speed at which any object can travel, hence, nothing, no particle, no rocket, no space vehicle can go at faster-than-light (=superluminal) speeds. However, there are some cases where things appear to move at superluminal speeds, such as in the following examples: 1. Consider two spaceships moving each at 0.6c in opposite directions. For a stationary observer, the distance between both ships grows at faster-than-light speed. The same is true for distant galaxies that drift apart in opposite directions of the sky. 2. Another example: Consider pointing a very strong laser on the moon so that it projects a dot on the moon's service and then moving the laser rapidly towards Earth, so that it points on the floor in front of you. If you accomplish this in less than one second, the laser dot obviously travelled at superluminal speed, seeing that the average distance between the Earth and the Moon is 384,403 km.

What is matter?

The schoolbook definition would be: Matter is what takes up space and has mass. Matter as we know it is composed of molecules, which themselves are built from individual atoms. Atoms are composed of a core and one or more electrons that spin around the core in an electron cloud. The core is composed of protons and neutrons, the former have a positive electrical charge, the latter are electrically neutral. Protons and neutrons are composed of quarks, of which there are six types: up/down, charm/strange, and top/bottom. Quarks only exist in composite particles, whereas leptons can be seen as independent particles. There are six types of leptons: the electron, the muon, the tau and the three types of neutrinos. The particles that make up an atom could be seen as a stable form of locked up energy. Particles are extremely small, therefore 99.999999999999% (or maybe all) of an atom's volume is just empty space. Almost all visible matter in the universe is made of up/down quarks, electrons and (e-)-neutrinos, because the other particles are very unstable and quickly decay into the former.

How fast does an electron spin?

An electron in a hydrogen atom moves at about 2.2 million m/s. With the circumference of the n=1 state for hydrogen being about 0,33x10-9 m in size, it follows that an n=1 electron for a hydrogen atom revolves around the nucleus 6,569,372 billion times in just one second.

Are quarks and leptons all there is?

Not really. Fist of all, quarks always appear in composite particles, namely hadrons (baryons and mesons), then there is antimatter, and finally there are the four fundamental forces.

What is antimatter?

The existence of antimatter was first predicted in 1928 by Paul Dirac and has been experimentally verified by the artificial creation of the positron (e+) in a laboratory in 1933. The positron, the electron's antiparticle, carries a positive electrical charge. Not unlike the reflection in a mirror, there is exactly one antimatter particle for each known particle and they behave just like their corresponding matter particles, except they have opposite charges and/or spins. When a matter particle and antimatter particle meet, they annihilate each other into a flash of energy. The universe we can observe contains almost no antimatter. Therefore, antimatter particles are likely to meet their fate and collide with matter particles. Recent research suggests that the symmetry between matter and antimatter is less than perfect. Scientists have observed a phenomenon called charge/parity violation, which implies that antimatter presents not quite the reflection image of matter.

What are the four fundamental forces?

The four fundamental forces are gravity, the electromagnetic force, and the weak and strong nuclear forces. Any other force you can think of (magnetism, nuclear decay, friction, adhesion, etc.) is caused by one of these four fundamental forces or by a combination of them. Electromagnetism and the weak nuclear force have been shown to be two aspects of a single electroweak force.

What is gravity?

Gravity is the force that causes objects on Earth to fall down and stars and planets to attract each other. Isaac Newton quantified the gravitational force: F = mass1 * mass2 / distance². Gravity is a very weak force when compared with the other fundamental forces. The electrical repulsion between two electrons, for example, is some 10^40 times stronger than their gravitational attraction. Nevertheless, gravity is the dominant force on the large scales of interest in astronomy. Einstein describes gravitation not as a force, but as a consequence of the curvature of spacetime. This means that gravity can be explained in terms of geometry, rather than as interacting forces. The General Relativity model of gravitation is largely compatible with Newton, except that it accounts for certain phenomena such as the bending of light rays correctly, and is therefore more accurate than Newton's formula. According to General Relativity, matter tells space how to curve, while the curvature of space tells matter how to move. The carrier particle of the gravitational force is the graviton.

What is electromagnetism?

Electromagnetism is the force that causes like-charged particles to repel and oppositely-charged particles to attract each other. The carrier particle of the electromagnetic force is the photon. Photons of different energies span the electromagnetic spectrum of x rays, visible light, radio waves, and so forth. Residual electromagnetic force allows atoms to bond and form molecules.

What is the strong nuclear force?

The strong force acts between quarks to form hadrons. The nucleus of an atom is hold together on account of residual strong force, i.e. by quarks of neighbouring neutrons and protons interacting with each other. Quarks have an electromagnetic charge and another property that is called colour charge, they come in three different colour charges. The carrier particles of the strong nuclear force are called gluons. In contrast to photons, gluons have a colour charge, while composite particles like hadrons have no colour charge.

What is the weak nuclear force?

Weak interactions are responsible for the decay of massive quarks and leptons into lighter quarks and leptons. It is the primary reason why matter is mainly composed of the stable lighter particles, namely up/down quarks and electrons. Radioactivity is due to the weak nuclear force. The carrier particles of the weak force are the W+, W-, and the Z bosons.

How are carrier particles different from other particles?

The photon, gluon, and the graviton carrier particles are thought to be massless and having no electrical charge. Only the W and Z particles, mediators of the weak nuclear force, are massive, and the W+ and W- particles carry charge. Force carrier particles can only be absorbed or produced by a matter particle which is affected by that particular force. These particles allow us to explain interactions between matter.

How old is the universe?

Today's most widely accepted cosmology, the Big Bang theory, states that the universe is limited in space and time. The current estimate for the age of the universe is 13.7 billion years. This figure was computed from the cosmic microwave background (CMB) radiation data that the Wilkinson Microwave Anisotropy Probe (WMAP) captured in 2002.

What came before the Big Bang?

The Big Bang model is singular at the time of the Big Bang. This means that one cannot even define time, since spacetime is singular. In some models like the oscillating universe, suggested by Stephen Hawking, the expanding universe is just one of many phases of expansion and contraction. Other models postulate that our own universe is just one bubble in a spacetime foam containing a multitude of universes. The "multiverse" model of Linde proposes that multiple universes recursively spawn each other, like in a growing fractal. However, until now there is no observational data confirming either theory. It is indeed questionable, whether we will ever be able to gain empirical evidence speaking in favor these theories, because nothing outside our own universe can be observed directly. Hence, the question can currently not be answered by science.

How big is the universe?

The universe is constantly expanding in all directions, therefore its size cannot be stated. Scientists think it contains approximately 100 billion galaxies with each galaxy containing between 100 and 200 billion star systems. Our own galaxy, the Milky Way, is average when compared with other galaxies. It is a disk-shaped spiral galaxy of about 100,000 light-years in diameter.

What is the universe expanding into?

This question is based on the popular misconception that the universe is some curved object embedded into a higher dimensional space, and that the universe is expanding into this space. There is nothing whatsoever that we have measured or can measure that will show us anything about this larger space. Everything that we measure is within the universe, and so we see neither edge nor boundary nor centre of expansion. Thus the universe is not expanding into anything that we can see or measure.

Why is the sky dark at night?

If the universe were infinitely old, and infinite in extent, and stars could shine forever, then every direction you looked would eventually end on the surface of a star, and the whole sky would be as bright as the surface of the Sun. This is known as Olbers's paradox, named after Heinrich Wilhelm Olbers [1757-1840] who wrote about it in 1823-1826. Absorption by interstellar dust does not circumvent this paradox, since dust reradiates whatever radiation it absorbs within a few minutes, which is much less than the age of the universe. However, the universe is not infinitely old, and the expansion of the universe reduces the accumulated energy radiated by distant stars. Either one of these effects acting alone would solve Olbers's paradox, but they both act at once.

If the universe is only 13.7 billion years old, how can we see objects that are 30 billion light-years away?

This question is essentially answered by Special Relativity. When talking about the distance of a moving object, we mean the spatial separation now, with the positions of us and the object specified at the current time. In an expanding universe, this distance is now larger than the speed of light times the light travel time due to the increase of separations between objects, as the universe expands. It does not mean that any object in the universe travels faster than light.

What is Dark Matter?

Dark matter is a hypothesized form of matter particle that does not reflect or emit electromagnetic radiation. The existence of dark matter is inferred from gravitational effects on visible matter, such as stars and galaxies.

A small percentage of the gravitational effects observed are from visible matter (some estimates are as low as 4% of total gravitational effects). The remaining 96% is presumed to result from dark matter or dark energy, though these terms are somewhat indicative of our ignorance of the exact nature of these unknown quantities, as they have never been directly observed.

What is Dark Energy?

Dark energy is a hypothetical form of energy that permeates space and exerts a negative pressure, which would have gravitational effects to account for the differences between the theoretical and observational results of gravitational effects on visible matter. Dark energy is not observed, but rather inferred, along with dark matter, as a probable explanation for these effects.

The term "dark energy" was coined by the theoretical cosmologist Michael S. Turner.

What is a Black Hole?

Though they're mentioned a lot in popular culture, especially science fiction, few people really understand what a black hole is. A black hole is a theoretical entity created when a supermassive star gets compressed, as in a supernova, into a sufficiently dense point. The curvature of spacetime that results under Einstein's theory of general relativity is essentially infinite, making it so that even light cannot escape from its gravity.

As with most physical theories, of course, there are some alternatives to black holes that have been presented. One of the most popular is a ball of plasma called a magnetospheric eternally collapsing object (MECO). A July New Scientist article implied that physical evidence in support of MECOs is growing, although at present the black hole theory is still dominant among physicists.

What is a wormhole?

A wormhole is a theoretical entity allowed by Einstein's theory of general relativity in which spacetime curvature connects two distant locations (or times).

The name wormhole was coined by American theoretical physicist John A. Wheeler in 1957, based on an analogy of how a worm could chew a hole from one end of an apple through the center to the other end, thus creating a "shortcut" through the intervening space. The picture to the right depicts a simplified model of how this would work in linking two areas of two-dimensional space.

The most common concept of a wormhole is an Einstein-Rosen bridge, first formalized by Albert Einstein and his colleague Nathan Rosen in 1935.

In such a model, a black hole would draw matter in while being connected to a white hole in a distant location, which expels this same matter. In 1962, John A. Wheeler and Robert W. Fuller were able to prove that such a wormhole would collapse instantly upon formation, so not even light would make it through.

In a 1988 paper, physicists Kip Thorne and Mike Morris proposed since that such a wormhole could be made stable by containing some form of negative matter or energy (sometimes called exotic matter). Other types of traversible wormholes have also been proposed as valid solutions to the general relativity field equations.

Some solutions to the general relativity field equations have suggested that wormholes could also be created to connect different times, as well as distant space. Still other possibilities have been proposed of wormholes connecting to whole other universes.

There is still much speculation on whether it is possible for wormholes to actually exist and, if so, what properties they would actually possess.

Also Known As:
Einstein-Rosen bridge, Schwarzschild wormhole, Lorentzian wormhole, Morris-Thorne wormhole

Examples:
Wormholes are best known for their appearance in science fiction. The television series Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, for example, largely focused on the existence of a stable, traversible wormhole that connected the "Alpha Quadrant" of our galaxy (which contains Earth) with the distant "Gamma Quadrant." Similarly, shows such as Sliders and Stargate have used such wormholes as the means of traveling to other universes or distant galaxies.

What is the term "Absolute Zero"?

Absolute zero is the lowest possible temperature, at which point no thermal energy remains in the atoms of a substance. It is 0 degrees on the Kelvin scale, which translates to -273.15 degrees Celsius (or -459.67 degrees Fahrenheit).

The concept of an "absolute cold" was first presented by Robert Boyle in his 1665 New Experiments and Observations touching Cold. Various physicists explored this phenomenon, until Lord Kelvin derived his thermodynamic temperature scale, extrapolating backward to absolute zero based purely on the laws of thermodynamics.

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Confidence exudes charm. Another post about girls so this blog won't be so boring with philosophical stuff.

On confidence and getting started with approaching girls.


Try approaching every attractive girl you see and say, "Hi. Are you the sort of person I should get to know better?" If she says "Yes", then ask "Why?" Put the focus of the conversation on what she has to offer you. Do this in a matter of fact way, like you were saying "Hi. Your shoe's untied." In fact, if you can't yet muster the boldness to confront attractive girls, then just tell them it looks like they're about to lose a heel on their shoe and WALK AWAY. Try it. It works." Don't misunderstand the "addressing a girl and then walking away works" part - it doesn't work for getting to know these girls, it works to add to your experience and feeling natural and good about approaching girls:)

I didn't use "feeling confident" here on purpose, because ideally, you don't want to feel "confident" - being confident is something you think about and which ultimately reveals that you must be nervous in one way or another after all. Ideally you feel so good and natural about it that the word "confidence" never pops up in your mind:) Feeling so good and natural that you have no need to think about being confident is actually the ultimate confidence - but never think of it in terms of confidence. Forget the term "confidence" altogether, just concentrate on feeling good and natural (about approaching, propelling her to new heights of pleasure with your patterns, having simple friendly touches etc) and before you know it - "confident" is how you'll be perceived by women:)

When seeing a girl you'd like to approach, don't even try to "feel confident". Instead, think: "See that girl? I am the perfect experience for her!". Think of the way she will have goosbumps from the way you'll make her feel good, and if you want to, then for just a split-second you can remind yourself of all the ways you could make her scream*you know what I mean*:) Don't dwell on that though:) Just go and offer her the experience of a life-time:)