Monday, June 23, 2008
Read your stuff...interesting. Makes a lot of sense to appear different then all the others. I have one question, however. This C&F stuff (can I call it "friendly mocking"?) really only works on women who are sure of themselves and who will not take your jokes to the heart. But how many of those are in the world? I mean, with today's"perfect" pop-stars most women have at least some insecurities. So, how can you use this technique and not accidentally hit a weak spot? Is there a neutral "friendly mocking" approach? =p
I think you're hitting on an important point here.
I think that a lot of guys "secretly" want to figure out a way to meet women without RISKING anything.
This is probably why personal ads and online dating web sites are so popular.
The problem with not wanting to RISK anything is that it creates a mindset that leads to being AVERAGE.
And "average" doesn't create ATTRACTION.
There is this specific kind of humor that many people who are at the top of their game call "Cocky & Funny".
One of the purposes of the Cocky & Funny technique is to clearly demonstrate that you are NOT intimidated by a woman, and to INSTANTLY communicate that you are DIFFERENT from other men.
You'd like to know the magic way to "not accidentally hit a weak spot"...
But guess what?
Risk is part of life.
Don't worry so much about hitting a "weak spot"while you're teasing or busting on a woman... just concern yourself with making sure you're being FUNNY while you're doing it.
If you meet a woman who is so sensitive that she can't take a joke, or you "accidentally" overdo it, don't worry about it. No biggie.
She's probably either too uptight or emotionally fragile for you to have a good time with anyway.
If you want to make a cake, you have to break a few eggs, man.
Remember, your objective isn't to be MEAN towomen, or to hurt them... your objective is to usea specific type of humor to create ATTRACTION.
And give up this "neutral" idea. Neutral is BORING. And Boring is NOT the way to create ATTRACTION.
It's always good to pick a SIDE. . .
set up a date and she says: "Friday night? Sure.
Call me on Friday and we can talk about it..."?
Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you're
Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you
about something ridiculous?
Or, have you ever had a woman call you five
minutes before a date and cancel?
Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get
upset because she didn't get her way?
Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number
and she says, "Why don't you give me your number
and I'll call YOU?"
Well guess what... you were being TESTED.
All of these are examples of common things
women do to "test" men.
On some level, the woman you were dealing with
was testing to see how much control she had in the
relationship... and how STRONG you were.
The paradox of "testing" is that if you COMPLY
with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually
FAIL the test.
Hey, I never said that women made sense... lol.
I was reading a great book recently called "The
Way Of The Superior Man", and inside the author
points out that a woman will often ask a man for
something DIRECTLY... but if he DOES what she
asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.
Ever been there?
So what's with this testing stuff, anyway?
Well, the answer is fascinating.
And before I tell you about why women TEST you,
I want to mention that there's a LOT more going on
"behind the scenes" when it comes to female
psychology and behavior.
I believe that if you can
learn how to understand this "mating psychology,"
then you can learn to attract women MUCH faster...
Back to the answer...
Women test men because they need to QUICKLY
figure out what they're dealing with, and they
can't expect a man to just be straight up and
honest about his strengths and weaknesses.
I mean, let's face it... we guys like to talk a
big game, but when it comes to walking the talk,
we often can't BACK IT UP.
Also, beautiful women have a lot of options.
They have their pick of men. And beautiful women
prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although
this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER
and PERSONAL IDENTITY.
Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.
So let me ask you... if you were an attractive
woman that was being chased around by 100 guys,
how would YOU go about figuring out which one or
ones were the "real deal" and which were merely
FAKING strength and confidence?
Of course... you'd have to TEST them.
But you couldn't test by saying, "OK, I'm going
to give you a test now, so get ready."
No no NO!
You'd have to use "blind" tests. Tests that
would allow you to see a man's true strengths and
And in fact, you'd want to use tests
that ideally DIDN'T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU
WERE TESTING... OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT
HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out
to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and
This would give you the power...
And if you did this OFTEN, you'd eventually
become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the
tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way
into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating
Well, guess what?
That's what is going on with beautiful women.
Many of the tests that they use with men are
actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us
And if you fail one of these tests, there's a
good chance that you won't get another chance.
In this fast-paced world, we humans don't have
the time to spend getting to know people over a
few months or years to figure out whether or not
they're the kind of person that would make a good
friend or mate.
We need to know NOW.
So we use shortcuts.
Testing is a shortcut for women.
It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you
have BALLS, or if you're just another one of the
bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her
I hope you feel what I'm saying.
So, the next time you're standing in front of a
beautiful woman who you've just asked for her
number and she says, "Why don't you just give me
yours and I'll call YOU..." try CHUCKLING out
loud, and saying:
"Oh, come on. Don't give me that old line. Write
your number down and I'll only call you 25 times a
day until you wind up having to change it because
I have nothing better to do with my time than call
someone who doesn't want to hear from me."
Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and
look her in the eye expectantly.