Monday, June 23, 2008

Risking it with girls

***QUESTION***

Read your stuff...interesting. Makes a lot of sense to appear different then all the others. I have one question, however. This C&F stuff (can I call it "friendly mocking"?) really only works on women who are sure of themselves and who will not take your jokes to the heart. But how many of those are in the world? I mean, with today's"perfect" pop-stars most women have at least some insecurities. So, how can you use this technique and not accidentally hit a weak spot? Is there a neutral "friendly mocking" approach? =p

J Brooklyn


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think you're hitting on an important point here.

I think that a lot of guys "secretly" want to figure out a way to meet women without RISKING anything.

This is probably why personal ads and online dating web sites are so popular.

The problem with not wanting to RISK anything is that it creates a mindset that leads to being AVERAGE.

And "average" doesn't create ATTRACTION.

There is this specific kind of humor that many people who are at the top of their game call "Cocky & Funny".

One of the purposes of the Cocky & Funny technique is to clearly demonstrate that you are NOT intimidated by a woman, and to INSTANTLY communicate that you are DIFFERENT from other men.

You'd like to know the magic way to "not accidentally hit a weak spot"...

But guess what?

Accidents happen.

Risk is part of life.

Don't worry so much about hitting a "weak spot"while you're teasing or busting on a woman... just concern yourself with making sure you're being FUNNY while you're doing it.

If you meet a woman who is so sensitive that she can't take a joke, or you "accidentally" overdo it, don't worry about it. No biggie.

She's probably either too uptight or emotionally fragile for you to have a good time with anyway.

If you want to make a cake, you have to break a few eggs, man.

Remember, your objective isn't to be MEAN towomen, or to hurt them... your objective is to usea specific type of humor to create ATTRACTION.

And give up this "neutral" idea. Neutral is BORING. And Boring is NOT the way to create ATTRACTION.

It's always good to pick a SIDE. . .

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